After a brief stay in the hospital, I revived a habit I thought I’d kicked nearly a year ago – watching television. I have nothing against television, but I have a tendency to get hooked on Law & Order SVU or Criminal Minds marathons. In fact, I wasted the entire weekend watching television.
I learned a lot from my weekend TV binge. For example, did you know that cheek sagging is a HUGE problem in America? Oh, yes. There’s nothing worse than sagging cheeks. Well, unless you count cellulite, wrinkles, gray hair, or any of the evils brought on by natural aging. Thank goodness there is now a pharmaceutical fix for sagging cheeks. Because, you know, looking your age is the worst thing that could possibly happen to you.
The number of beauty and weight loss ads on television is astronomical. Wrinkle removers, age spot erasers, cellulite busters, and breast enhancers.
I know these types of posts have been done again and again. I get that some people are probably sick of hearing about it. But I think we need to keep talking about it until something changes. Do we blame the cosmetic companies? Fashion? Media? Personally, I don’t want place blame on anyone. I just want to tell people this:
You. Are. Perfect.
You are perfect just the way you are. Shave your legs. Or don’t. Wear makeup. Or don’t. Do what makes you feel good, but do it for the right reasons. Lose weight for your health, not because someone else says you don’t look the way you’re supposed to. Celebrate your curves – or lack thereof. Celebrate you.
Everyone has value. Your value doesn’t increase or decrease according to your bra size or a number on the scale. “Real women” are fat, skinny, muscular, or any way they want to be. “Real men” shouldn’t be judged by how time they spend in the gym, or by their weight, height, or bulk.
It’s up to us to define our femininity or masculinity. No one has the right to do that for us. Regardless of our sex, gender-identity, or age, we are all in this crazy life together. Let’s support each other. Let’s stick together by refusing to share Facebook memes that say, “Real women have curves.” Refuse to share the pictures that shame people for their weight, wardrobe, or hairstyle.
Show our family, our friends, and the advertisers that we are more than our appearance. We are more than our bodies. We are already perfect.
If you haven’t seen this video by Colbie Caillat, I’d love to share it with you. I cried the first time I watched it. It touched my heart. I hope it will touch yours.